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Dear Parents: There is a Chance Your Child Will be Sexually Abused

Given the statistics, your child is more likely to be sexually violated than be hit by a car while crossing the street. Elementary aged children are the most vulnerable. Children with disabilities are even at a higher risk. As a mother, father, sister, grandparent, sibling, or friend, when we remain silent, we condone rape culture, the

The Many Deceptions and Disguises of Relationship Abuse

Abuse presents itself in many forms and disguises, blurring the ability to identify it  Abuse: The Masked Bandit “He apologized.” “He is only violent after drinking.” “He’s just passive-aggressive.” “No one understands him as I do.” “He tells our children that my opinions and behaviors are crazy.” “I was antagonizing him.” “He left me without

The Invisble: Male Survivors of Rape

One in 6 men have experienced nonconsensual abusive sexual experiences before age 18, and one in 71 men in the United States have been raped in their lifetime, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The rape of males is a silent epidemic. Nevertheless, society as a whole, simply does not collectively acknowledge or

To Reach Courage You First Must Walk Through Vulnerability

Trauma is a glaring reminder of our own vulnerability and fragility as we navigate through life. The loss of control over one’s body, surroundings, or life can result in emotional numbing, withdrawal, feeling exposed, and powerless. Whether physical or emotional, trauma shatters and destroys our sense of security, making us feel helpless and vulnerable in