Can We Cancel “Cancel Culture?” The current culture of ‘canceling’ people for their views is, in a word, tiresome. It’s become almost a competition about who can be the most offended and aggrieved, and where does it leave us? Stuck in a cycle of condemning one another, with little to no resolution or understanding in
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You’re Not Damaged Goods: When Mental Illness Isn’t Caused by Trauma There’s an unfortunate belief held by many in the mental health community that everyone diagnosed with a mental illness suffered childhood trauma that set them on the path to their condition. While this may be true for many, it is not a catch-all root
There’s a Sex Recession. Does It Matter? Yes, there’s currently a sex recession happening with the younger folks. But I honestly think a cocktail recession would be worse! Hear me out. A while back, the Atlantic’s front page featured an article called, “Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex?” And it continues to be
You’re a narcissist, you’re a narcissist, we’re all narcissists! – But let me stop you right there. Narcissism continues to pick up steam, rolling into a rampant catch-all, throw-around phrase. We’ve officially found ourselves in what I like to call the False Narcissist Epidemic. If I had a nickel for every client, friend, self-proclaimed Instagram
It’s Time To Throw Away Your Self-Help Books I can’t hold it in any longer and just have to say it outright: It’s time to let go of self-help books. The recipe-like approach to healing doesn’t work because healing does not have a “one size fits all” approach. There is no singular definition or “recipe”
Finding the “One” is a Myth The idea of “the one” can be inspiring, but we often ignore that no single person can ever truly fulfill all our needs and desires at once. If you’ve been in any sort of long-term relationship, then you’ve no doubt experienced this before. We expect our romantic partners to
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Toxic Relationships May Be Today’s “Hot Topic,” But There’s Something More Important
There’s nothing like the feeling of starting fresh with someone new — it’s exciting, exhilarating, and makes you feel like anything is possible. But what happens when you realize that the person in front of you isn’t who you thought they were? What happens when your shiny new relationship starts showing its true colors and
What If Women Stopped Trying to Be Perfect? It’s no secret that women are constantly pressured to conform to unrealistic beauty standards set by society. From yoga, Brazilian butt lifts, and TikTok beauty trends to the portrayal of perfect robot housewives in movies, women have been forced to strive for impossible perfection. Men often supply
Let’s De-stigmatize Mental Illness: Why the Media’s Favorite Slogan Misses the Mark Adverse mental health remains a persistent issue in our society, and it’s one both politicians and the media address head-on. While this is great in theory, the media and its comrades continue to focus on individual aspects or behaviors without acknowledging the factors
Why is everyone walking around like a pocket-sized psychologist? I didn’t know I could call myself a psychologist without having to attend a decades-worth of specialized education and training. Dang, I should have skipped the whole ordeal! NOT. Lately, I’ve noticed everyone (okay, maybe not everyone, but a considerable majority of people) seems to be
